Are You Facing Betrayal in Your Relationship?

Betrayal can take many forms and shake the very foundation of a partnership. Betrayal violates the trust you have in others, sometimes it violates the trust you have in yourself. There are hidden secrets, lies, addiction, contempt, neglect, indifference, infidelity, and/or going against the agreed-upon boundaries and expectations in your relationship. One of you feels profoundly hurt and betrayed, the other overwhelmed by guilt and shame, and you both may be wondering how you got here.

Where do you go from here?

If you're here, it means you're ready to address the crisis at hand. That's the first step, and it's a courageous one. For many, discovering a betrayal is the first time couples have to face themselves and address some fundamental issues in the relationship that can no longer be ignored.

When there are communication break downs and conflict:

Do you find yourself turning away from your partner? Do you try to stay engaged with intensity? Do you have no filter? Try to have everything around you adjust to your liking? Do you believe you can only receive love if you do something in exchange? Do you have trouble saying no or holding boundaries in your relationship? Do you worry you might be too much if you express what you really need? Do you tense up and believe the only way through this hard time is by controlling your instinctual parts that deep down want to SCREAM, be aggressive, or even sexual?

Do you feel more like roommates than romantic partners?

The spark and connection that brought you together now seems to have faded away.

Same disagreement, different day. It feels like you can never really reach a resolution- or, when you do, there isn’t the follow-through necessary to actually notice a change in your relationship. Your household feels unbalanced with one partner feeling like they do more than the other, and the concept of “quality time” feels like a distant memory.